Courageous Are The Ones Who Gather Their Pieces And Rebuild Themselves Alone

Each of us is brave in our own way, since we have all passed difficult times and dodged stones on the path that has led us to what we are today.

Courage is not often visible. But the world is full of anonymous heroes, unsung individuals who live off genuine private exploits by facing adversity themselves.

We all know someone whom we admire because he has overcome a traumatic event tremendously. He overcame an illness, a loss, a separation, an accident or a difficult and difficult time to explain.

And it is even possible that you are that person, who recently went through a similar situation.

But you picked up your shattered pieces and rebuilt yourself, bit by bit, day by day, instilling hope and courage into every defragmented nook.

There is a series of knowledge that we acquire by force because we have no other choice.

We will tell you about it in this article.

We have more courage than we think

Our brains are resistant to change. We don’t like unforeseen events or changes of direction in our life.

However, even if we find it hard to believe it, we have many psychological tools to deal with difficulties.

• Our natural instinct is to guarantee our survival. Hence the fact that, even if we go through periods when negative emotions overtake us, there is an inner compass that pushes us and guides us to find the path, balance and strength.
• The problem we often run into is we don’t allow ourselves to be vulnerable.
• Feeling hurt, disappointed and affected by a loss or betrayal often makes us feel fragile or lacking in energy, which would allow us to recover.
• Know something. You have to embrace your own vulnerability in order to be strong again.
• Accepting what has happened and accepting the pain that is present is an essential way to promote future healing.

On the other hand, who resists, who refuses to accept what has happened and is unable to feel his own vulnerability, will take longer to get over the facts.

Recomposing, a process that only depends on time

Despite what we are led to believe, time, in itself, does not cure everything. In fact, sometimes it even intensifies the pain or gives rise to an affective disorder.

• Genuine healing comes with the courage of a person who sets the stage for acceptance, forgiveness, and a clear willingness to go above and beyond in order to be happy.
• Time does not solve problems nor act as a sedative or a weakening of suffering.
• It is our attitude that allows us to understand that we will never be able to forget certain things. But we can live with these facts because we allow ourselves to move forward regardless.

The passage of time is an ally for those who work hard. For those who decide to open up again to the world despite their inner wounds and with a new learning thanks to what happened.

There are battles that we have to face alone

When it comes to overcoming any adverse situation, the social and emotional support of those you love is more than welcome.

But you have to know that it is we ourselves who have to take the plunge. It is on us that we have the will. Taking care of ourselves allows us to set in motion the mechanisms of change towards well-being and balance.

Maybe it’s a bit harsh and heartbreaking. But facing depression, the pain of loss or betrayal is a solitary act, a process that is experienced in first person.

No one can cry for us. No one can inject us with the strength to get up every morning, to change our habits …

We can be encouraged, guided and guided, but the responsibility is always our responsibility.

Adversity teaches us, but life is not suffering: it is the search for happiness

It is also often thought that “who has not yet suffered has not learned to live”. Or even that “in order to be truly happy, one must first know adversity.”

• Neither of these ideas is true. Suffering is not something normative. In fact, no one should have to go through a traumatic experience to find out what wellness or personal satisfaction is when there is no place for pain.
• Each person has their own story. Each of us has a card of unique and exceptional experiences on which are inscribed our particular wisdom and our personal essence.
• We have all been brave in our own way. Whether it’s finding the path that suits us best or overcoming difficult times that have built the person we are today: someone stronger, balanced, happy and mature.

Be proud of your courage

Everything in life is learning, as much in times of calm and happiness as in times of storm and emotional chaos.

The important thing is to feel proud of everything you have achieved. And to feel worthy of everything we have, which defines us and gives shape to the wonderful person who, today, stands in front of your mirror: yourself.