Differences Between Love And Obsession

It’s not easy to tell the difference between being caught up in obsession or really feeling love.

So today we’re going to find out some of the basic differences between love and obsession. They will allow us to clarify and see more easily what is happening to us.

Love is such an intense feeling that sometimes it slips out of our hands and ends up becoming an obsession that dominates and carries us away.

Love or obsession?

The sickly exclusivity

When we are obsessed with a person, we build a kind of wall around the relationship that there is no wiggle room for.

This exclusivity wears us out because in most cases it is in control and we find ourselves suspicious and alert, instead of relaxing and enjoying the relationship.

Love, on the other hand, enjoys an engagement where exclusivity is not the norm, but gives honesty a great value for both members of the couple.

Obsession and low self-esteem

When obsession arises, there is bound to be a link with low self-esteem. Something we are missing, something we need and don’t have. And we become obsessed with this thing.

However, when we speak of love, we are not looking for someone who fills us, but rather who complements us.

In love there is acceptance

When a relationship breaks down, there is always a grieving stage to go through. But sooner or later it gives rise to the acceptance of reality.

In the case of obsession, this is not the case. There is mourning, but we cannot get out of it. We get stuck, attached, and acceptance doesn’t come until we do therapy.

The other is a human being

It may be obvious. However, when it comes to obsession, it really isn’t. In this case, the other person is like a property that belongs to us to give us what we lack.

In us, we consider that she is “obliged” to do this and that she cannot “betray” us. It is a need that turns a person into a possession.

When we speak of love, we take into account the other as a person, who can enjoy their rights as well as their freedoms.

Manipulative intentions

Sometimes in romantic relationships, there is a lack of interest from one member of the couple for the other. If we feel love, it makes us sad, but we end up making a decision and accepting the outcome.

Otherwise, it is not something that we accept, but that we use as a weapon against the other.

Thus, we try to make the other person feel guilty about this lack of interest that they have not sought or decided to feel.

The importance of communication

In any healthy relationship, communication and empathy are fundamental elements for “everything to run smoothly”.

However, in relationships where obsession is present, communication is absent, as there is fear that the other might escape, flee, or leave us.

Thus, we act as if nothing has happened and we pretend that everything is fine so as not to see the reality of the problem.

Creating this world of light and color is no guarantee that everything will be resolved, on the contrary: the truth will whip you harder than ever when it appears.

Have you ever experienced these two forms of love or have you ever believed that you loved? People who are too obsessed in their relationships end up very damaged.

Their need is not satisfied and, if at some point everything changes, they totally lose control. They can’t stand for something to change, for it to turn into something different than expected. They gave it their all. and they have put so much energy in it that they have exhausted their reserves.

But, they have forgotten themselves and the only solution here is to find yourself again.