I Learned To Be Strong When I Realized That I Had To Stand Up Alone

Even if it seems difficult, we can only rely on ourselves, and for that we must learn to overcome adversities, to value ourselves and to take care of ourselves, above all else.

To be happy, we must first learn to be strong and for that, it is necessary to understand that we are the only ones responsible for this success.

No one is going to bring you air for you to breathe / And no one is going to give you the strength to get up in the morning. Strength is a combination of energy, motivation, self-esteem, and dreams.

These are the four pillars that can be altered by external factors like a toxic relationship, very long periods of stress or anxiety, or daily disappointments that we do not deal with in an appropriate way.

In this article, we invite you to think about that. so that you can apply simple strategies that will help you better manage life’s complications.

When life asks you to be strong

Here is a well-known phrase from physicist Stephen Hawking: “Complaining is pointless, because it is a waste of time”.

We have the right to complain, but when we are faced with a complex and difficult situation, there is no other remedy: only we can get out of the abyss.

The support of our own, family, friends and social institutions is essential, but the step towards improvement and the belief that we must be courageous is an act that must come from the depths of our hearts.

No one chooses to be fragile. These are the circumstances that “hit” us to test us.

In the face of these times of adversity, it is necessary to change our thoughts and better manage our emotional world.

We encourage you to apply these simple little strategies. From this you can think about how to learn to be strong when life challenges you.

Be confident in change: being strong is all up to you

Whoever loves you can give you a hand to help you get back on your feet. But if your legs don’t hold you up anymore and your mind tells you that you’d rather stay in bed, other people’s help will be of no use.

Being strong depends on you and to be successful you need to start implementing simple daily changes:

• Have a positive internal dialogue every day. Make an effort to eat better or to play sports and above all, from now on, forget the “it is not possible”, “today, I cannot”, “I cannot see it” , “It’s not for me”. 

• Change your thoughts and you will change your emotions. Day after day, you will feel more confident emotionally.

Accept and understand that life is also about giving up and letting go

Another idea that’s been selling a lot in the books lately is the need to stop holding on to things and people. We know that this is neither simple nor realistic.

• We hold on to the people we love because that is how we view happiness. Giving and receiving is the maximum sense of joy. And so it is almost impossible not to hold on to our family, our children and our spouse.

• However, it would be more a question of understanding that in life, nothing is certain. What we have today, we may well lose tomorrow.
  Learning to give up and let go is something we should all be prepared for.

• Accepting pain and separation is the key to readjusting our life. “I accept that you don’t love me anymore, it hurts me, but I understand that I must move forward, continue alone, being strong and loving myself”.

Take care of yourself and gratify yourself

The best care is not what others give you, but what you give to yourself.

What does that mean ? Think about this for a few seconds:

• If we tell ourselves that life is not going to offer us anything good, that our train has already passed, and love, respect or joy will never appear in our reality again, we are sabotaging ourselves. .

And even more: “there is no worse enemy than his own thoughts”.

• Change your attitude and you will change your life. Stop thinking about others first. Be aware that if you don’t take care of yourself, no one is going to.

If we don’t show respect for ourselves, we will push the boundaries dramatically and others will take advantage of us.

• Also think about this question: When was the last time you congratulated yourself? To be strong, it is necessary to understand that we deserve to be happy, to enjoy and to offer ourselves positive emotions:
  • Take a walk, allow yourself to enjoy the “here and now”. Become aware of what surrounds you, and of the light.
  • Give yourself a simple little gift. A lunch, an afternoon at the beach, a new dress, a new haircut, an outing with friends.

Moments of joy remind us of the need to preserve what we love, and what we strive for. Let’s be strong!